Kenyan policeman gets stuck in married woman during illicit sex

A police officer in Kenya has been caught in a deadly web of sex scandal after he was caught stuck on a married woman laced with

A Kenyan police officer was given the embarrassment of his life when he was caught red handed stuck between the legs of his secret lover who is a married woman.
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According to an eyewitnesses who made the video which has gone on to become an Internet sensation, the woman's husband had long suspected that his wife had a string of secret sexual affairs with other men and decided to place a deadly and potent charm called Kikamba, (Magun in Nigeria), on her so that any man that sleeps with her would be stuck, thereby exposing her infidelity.

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It did not take long before the police officer was caught in the Kikamba magic while having sex with the woman in a hotel in Katui County, 160 kilometers east of Nairobi, the Kenyan capital.

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7 Things I Wish I Knew When I Was 21

As I enjoy my 40th year on this planet, it's an exciting time to look back and think of the many, many mistakes I've made along the way. Ok, well, maybe I wouldn't describe that as exciting, but it is certainly valuable to look back and think about what I've learned in my first 40 years on this planet. As young leaders graduate from college and prepare to take on the world, here are 7 things I wish I knew when I was 21 years old:
1) It's much better to live in the present than in the past or future.
Living in the past will fill you with regret and depression, while living in the future will fill you with anxiety and unrealistic expectations. I know - I've been there. Plus, we really only have one choice, which is to live in the here-and-now, and to be present with ourselves and with others. So, limit your looking-back and looking-forward activities carefully, and for goodness sake, put your smartphone away.
2) Reading and writing sharpen the brain while TV news dulls it.
Just about everyone I know watches television. I watch television. But today, I avoid TV news at all costs- it's sensational, biased and depressing. I wish I hadn't spent so many hours in my twenties and thirties watching dumb TV. Instead, I wished I'd spent that time reading and writing. Now, I read and write more than ever before, and it's definitely made me a better thinker.
3) Listening is much more influential than talking.
This is so counterintuitive, I know: If we want to get something, we think we need to talk our way into it. But really, the opposite is true: If we want to get something, we need to listen our way into it. As Aaron Burr says in my favorite Broadway show Hamilton: "Talk less, smile more." Pay attention to what your colleagues, friends and family really want. It's more valuable to be interested than to be interesting.
4) Fear is normal. Feel the fear and go for it anyway.
Everyone's afraid. I'm so afraid of so many things - which is ironic, because I've often been called "fearless." But the important thing is to not let fear debilitate you. I was so afraid of rejection and failure before, it kept me from acting. Instead, feel the fear and go for it anyway. That's the definition of "courage", by the way.
5) Givers gain.
Another counterintuitive one: When I was younger, I didn't realize the way to abundance is to give of yourself, not to try to get as much as you can. Some of the most successful people I've met in the last 20 years are true givers: Adam Grant, Bob Burg, James Altucher, Jim McCann. The universe is truly amazing in rewarding those you give of themselves.
6) Taking care of your body is essential.
You've got to take care of yourself. No, not in a "me, first, get money" kind of way (See point 5). No, as my wife, business partner and fellow author Carrie Kerpen writes, you've got to take care of your body. This has definitely been the hardest lesson for me over the past 20 years - the food-loving, partying-hard, sleep-skipping guy that I am. But I wish I realized at 21 how much more energy you can actually have from proper nutrition, exercise, and sleep, and limited caffeine, alcohol and drugs.
7) Gratitude is the best drug on the planet.
Which bring me to my last point: the best drug in the world is gratitude. It's (usually) free and there are never any side-effects. Handwritten thank you cards, acts of kindness, gratitude lists - these are just a few ways to take your mood from bad to good, good to great, or great to ecstatic. Literally every time I'm down, I can take a hit of gratitude and feel better. You can too.
I love learning. In fact, I can't wait to write the "7 Things I Wish I Knew at 40" in 10 years or so. In the meantime, those are the 7 things I wish I knew at 21. What are yours?
 

Want to Train Yourself to Succeed? Science Says These 3 Things Matter Most

A National Science Foundation-funded review of 61 success studies found these three things cited over and over again.

Henry Ford once famously said: "Whether you think that you can, or that you can't, you are usually right."
It's a pithy quote (Ford was a quote machine), but now, just over 70 years after his death, a new research project funded by the National Science Foundation points to a wealth of evidence that backs him up.
The research focused on college students, specifically studying factors that made them more likely to good grades, stay in school, and graduate. There were three findings that together make up what I'm going to go ahead and call the Henry Ford rule: Learning to believe in yourself and your abilities, empirical research suggests, makes you more likely to succeed in and of itself.
Here's the research project, the takeaways, and how you can use them to improve your life--whether you're still a student or have long since left the classroom.

Not just a study: a study of studies.

The NSF-funded project involved 12 psychologists and other PhDs from universities and think tanks around the country, who reviewed reports on a total of 61 other experimental studies on college students and success.
Across the board, the report found, there were three main factors that foretold greater achievement across disciplines and regardless of factors like the students' test scores or socioeconomic status. The factors included:
1. Developing a sense of belonging.
This first factor has to do with the degree to which students believe they "belong in college, fit in well, and are socially integrated," according to a summary that quoted one of the study's co-authors, Fred Oswald, a professor of psychology at Rice University. Of the 61 studies involved, more than 50 found that simply feeling like they belonged in school had a positive impact on students' grades.
2. Enabling a "growth mindset."
Regular readers of this column will know that we're all about the growth mindset. Embracing the belief that intelligence is not a fixed attribute--that it can be strengthened through use, like a muscle--had a firm impact on students' success. Of the 61 studies, 75 percent found that embracing a growth mindset improved students' GPAs.
3. Having articulable personal goals and values.
Finally, 83 percent of the studies--by my math, that makes either 50 or 51--found that students who embraced "personal goals and values that [they] perceive[d] to be directly linked to the achievement of a future, desired end" were more likely to succeed. Again, this was measured mostly by comparing the students' GPAs.

Improving each factor, when they seem like common sense.

These three factors do sound like common sense when laid out like this--but that doesn't make them any less valid. And, just because they make sense to us doesn't necessarily mean that we're good at developing them.
So how can you make that happen? The key is to truly come to believe these three factors--and it turns out one way to do that may be writing them down.
According to Oswald, the studies in the NSF project often included practical exercises that students could use to improve their sense of belonging, their embrace of a growth mindset, and their adherence to core values. One "remarkable finding," according to the study, was the degree to which "brief writing exercises [improved] these intra- and interpersonal competencies."
For example, students who were required to "write about the relevance of course topics to their own life or to the life of a family member or close friend" saw positive development. Another remedy involved what sounds like a bit of benevolent manipulation--making students feel more at home on campus by having them write stories and reflections that "fram[ed] social adversity as common and transient."
Simply put, having them write in a way that emphasizes that everyone feels out of place sometimes, and that most of us manage to get over it, will improve the situation. And this suggests that making a conscious effort to examine these beliefs, perhaps by journaling or other written exercises, might help internalize them.
As the writer Flannery O'Connor once said, "I write because I don't know what I think until I read what I say."

Want to Raise Emotionally Healthy Kids? Try to Keep Them Off These Two Social Networks

A U.K. mental health group's study shows there are real dangers in social media.

Is spending lots of time on social media good or bad for your mental health? Mostly bad, according to a comprehensive new study by the Royal Society for Public Health in the U.K. The Society looked into many different aspects of social media's effect, especially on those between the ages of 14 and 24.
The study found that spending time on social media can be beneficial in some ways, such as helping those with physical or mental health issues find useful information and connect with others facing similar problems. It can also help users find emotional support, a community, and greater opportunities for self-expression.
But these benefits don't make up for the worst effects spending too much time on social media can have on young people. So the Society asked about 1,500 14-to-24-year-olds across the U.K. about the effect that the five most popular social platforms had on their lives, both good and bad, on 14 different measurements, ranging from emotional support to anxiety to cyber-bullying.
Here's some of what they found:

1. Instagram and Snapchat have the greatest negative effect on young people's emotional health.

Of the five most popular social platforms, only YouTube was seen as having a net positive effective on young people's lives, according to survey responses. Instagram, on the other hand, had the most negative net effect, followed by Snapchat. It's easy to see why. Negative body image is a huge risk for young people, especially girls, all of the time--but that risk is intensified on social media. It makes sense that young people faced with a stream of (often enhanced) photographs of others will likely compare their own bodies with the ones in the photos and find fault with themselves by comparison.
A second big issue for young people on social media is fear of missing out, or FOMO, something that can grip adults too, but may be especially dangerous for young people. Here, too, it's easy to see why a photo stream could be a big problem: People often post messages or links to Facebook or Twitter from the comfort of their sofas, but are more likely to post photos when they're out doing something fun.

2. Spending more than two hours a day on social media is a seriously bad idea.

How much is too much? The Society cites research showing that young people who spend more than two hours a day on social media sites are likelier to report mental health issues. Here again, the problem is being constantly subjected to reading about other peoples' lives that seem more fun, more interesting, or more significant than your own.

3. Social media can mean sleep deprivation--which is bad for your brain.

"The brain is not fully developed until a person is well into their twenties and thirties," the study notes. That means sleep deprivation is singularly unhealthy for young people--but frankly it's a really bad idea at every age.
The problem here is that social media can be deeply addictive--possibly more so than nicotine, the study says. And some survey respondents report spending late-night hours scrolling through their social-media feeds when they know they should be asleep.

4. Cyber-bullying is a worse problem than you think.

Seventy percent of young people in the survey say they've experienced cyber-bullying, with 37 percent saying they've experienced it "on a high-frequency basis." In this instance, Facebook is the worst of the social-media platforms, with young people reporting they are twice as likely to be bullied there as on any other social network.
Every major social network has a firm anti-bullying policy, which is good. Unfortunately, the study notes, a recent survey by a British anti-bullying group found that 91 percent of young people who reported being bullied said the social network did nothing to address the problem.
In other words, the problem of cyber-bullying on social platforms is largely up to parents and teachers to solve. That's just one more reason it's important for parents to know how much time their kids are spending on which social networks, and what their experience is like while they're there.

9 Networking Tips to Make Money on Facebook

These marketers have increased their clients' profits by as much as 800 percent. Boost your brand and create sales with Facebook marketing. Here's how.

With a 13-year track record of helping network marketing organizations and small businesses achieve unprecedented growth, Jim Lupkin decided it was time to share his strategies with the world. He turned to best-selling author, Brian Carter. Carter, trusted by brands like NBC, Microsoft, and PrideStaff, has guided businesses to 800 percent profits and higher with Facebook marketing.
After reading Lupkin's case study on a network marketing company that grew over seventy-million in sales with his approach, Carter knew it was time for the pair to co-author a book. The authors are quick to mention, however, that Network Marketing For Facebook is not valuable to only the network marketing industry. "We were not surprised to hear that sales professionals and entrepreneurs love the book too," says Carter. "These techniques will work for your business if your personal brand is part of the sales process."
Why Facebook you may ask? "Wouldn't it make sense to join the community with the most people?" says Lupkin. "Facebook has more than one billion users and is five times more popular than the next most popular social network."
Here's just a taste of what you'll find inside the cover of Network Marketing For Facebook.

1. Create an appealing Facebook profile.

When someone knows, likes and trusts you, they're more willing to hear about your business. Your profile gives you this opportunity when you use your profile picture; cover image, and "about" section properly.
Choose a professional profile picture. Use your cover image to give people a snapshot of your personality. A complete "about" section makes you more credible and rounds out your personality.

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2. Post publicly on Facebook.

Your goal is to let your friends know what you do for a living and how you can help them. For example, if you're a realtor:
Hey everybody! As you may know, I love helping people find their dream home. If you know anyone that needs assistance, please message me.
If you're an insurance rep:
Hey there! As you may know, I love helping families be protected from unforeseen tragedies. If you know anyone that needs life insurance, please message me.

3. Use Facebook Messenger.

It is like email, but better. If you've previously conversed with a prospect and you're getting ready to talk to them again, you can quickly review all your previous talks in one place.
If you haven't spoken to a friend in a while, make sure to re-establish the relationship first. You don't want them to feel like you are only reaching out for business. You can say, "Hey! We haven't spoken in a while. How have you been?" Only chat about your products if they ask what you do.

4. Send messages based on past conversations and what you know about a friend.

A realtor example:
Hey Tom! I know you love houses with a view, and I seem to remember you were looking for a house. Well, check out this amazing lake view property! Do you want to come see it with me?
An insurance rep:
Hey Alicia! I know we're both family people, and it's been awesome to see yours grow up on Facebook. I was super glad to find out about this new life insurance option our company just created. It provides for families like no other policy I've seen. Do you want to hear more about it?

5. Keep the conversation going.

It's exciting to have someone respond to your messages! Thank them for the response, give them additional information: pictures, videos and details of your offering, and then let them know what is the next step.
If you don't hear back, send them a message once a week asking if they wanted to take the next step. Be patient. Not everyone checks Facebook daily.

6. Stay in touch.

It's only a matter of time until friends want your product. Stay in touch on Facebook by posting quality content and interacting with your friends' posts. Posting quality content is a balance between business and personal: Too much of either can result in failure. Be personal 80% of the time. People do business with those they have the best relationship with; so post about what's on your mind. Post about business the other 20%.
The more you interact with your friend's posts, the more your business posts appear in their newsfeed. Your friends will also see you as a true friend, not someone just trying to sell them products. When you comment on a friend's post, write from the heart. Treat it the same as when you talk face to face.

7. Grow your friends to grow your income.

With over a billion users, Facebook offers an unlimited amount of people to talk to if you take the time to build relationships. Facebook's Graph Search solves the new prospect obstacle by opening up their entire database to you. All you need to do is take the time to reach out and build relationships.

8. Create a group for support and inspiring sales teams.

Whether you're a manager motivating a team, or have a group of industry peers who want to support each other, Facebook Groups are the answer. You can move mountains when you belong to a group of passionate people working toward the same goals, supporting each other every day.
Once you start your group, post at least a few times a week. It could be a question, words of motivation, pictures, or videos. Always like and comment on what others are posting as well. Groups are like live events happening 24 hours a day. When run correctly, it will become the cornerstone of your success.

9. Remember, Facebook is part of the strategy, not the whole strategy.

Facebook connects you to new people and helps you develop relationships. However, you still need to talk with people face to face, over the phone, and at events. They also need to experience a "taste" of your offering.

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